The National Domestic Abuse makes very clear myths that may prevent victims from seeking help or those in the position to help, refuse to support – in any setting.
Myth 1 – Alcohol, drugs and stress make men violent
Abusers are also violent when sober. Many men who drink never use violence. These are all excuses.
Myth 2 – She would leave if it was really bad
There are many overlapping reasons why women may stay. Leaving is difficult and takes time. It is a process.
Myth 3 – Abusers grow up in violent homes
Violence is a choice an abuser makes; he alone is responsible. It is unrelated to childhood.
Myth 4 – Domestic abuse only happens to certain women
Domestic abuse happens to all women, regardless of where they live, their profession, or social background.
Myth 5 – Some women deserve it
Men often claim their partner ‘makes them do it’. This is victim-blaming. The abuser alone is responsible.
Myth 6 – He just loses his temper sometimes
Abusers say they ‘see red’ sometimes – but they are very much in control, in using multiple methods to abuse.
Myth 7 – Some women like violence
Women do not enjoy violence. Most live in fear and terror. This is victim-blaming.
Myth 8 – Domestic abuse is a private matter
Domestic abuse is a crime. It is not an individual but a social problem. We all need to speak out against it.