RELATIONSHIP GOALS PART 2
Ohhh yeah, there’s a part two! Buuuuuuut I’m not sure you’re going to be happy with me by the end of this thing…
So, I decided to make a part two but this time I want to get to the nitty and gritty about our relationships.
I’m calling out to all believers and non-believers because unfortunately most us all have one sad thing in common – when we form relationships or even when we want to build on relationships most of us, sadly, don’t place God in the heart of it and then by the end we are left thinking about how and where it all went wrong? Am I right or am I right?
You see God wants us to build a relationship with him first full of LOVE, TRUST & COMMUNICATION! You know just so you can evolve into the righteous and extraordinary person he planned for you to be. Once you’ve built that relationship with him and you have all your qualities in check and on point he then wants you to have relations believe it or not! God does want you to build and develop meaningful relationships. The thing is though sometimes our relationships become difficult, meaningless and toxic because we do not possess or have been really deeply in touch with the kind of man or woman that God needs us to be in order for us to find the RIGHT one (Genesis 2:18 – Then the LORD God said ‘’It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper who is just right for him’’).
Some of us – and I’ll be the first to place my hand up and admit that this has been me (on more than one occasion!) have become so blinded and deeply lost in what culture and the world say our relationships should look like that we end up placing ourselves in relationships that aren’t meaningful or aimed towards anything we actually want or are seeking in life and that in turn causes countless broken relationships which leave us damaged and left feeling like love and relationships just aren’t meant for us- like ‘’nope, forget it I’m not getting hurt again, relationships just aren’t meant for me’’.
Well pick up the pieces of your heart and this time give them to God! He will mend you if you just open up and trust him because our God is a redeemer so let go of those relationships that broke you and hurt you and give them to God because IF YOU LET HIM he will take all that hurt, pain and heartache you’ve been latching onto for so long and he will use it for your own good and to your own advantage!
& to those who still aren’t buying it and don’t want to form relationships – yes you, my fellow introverts that would rather be alone then have to deal with people and relationships – God himself said it is not good for you to set up a life where you are guarded and have built a wall up to where you are alone as this is where the enemy comes to attack . (Ecclesiastes 4:9 -12 – ‘’If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.’’) God wants you to have relations so don’t ignore the people God is trying to send you as they are there to give you meaningful relationships that bring you joy and peace. Don’t close yourself off from the blessing God is trying to give you!
Believe me, you can always tell if the relationship you have is from God just by the qualification – does that relationship help you? Bring you more positivity than negativity, uplift you and evolve you? Is the relationship is helping you?
You see when we have a relationship that has no aims or has not got God in it we more than likely end up floating and become frustrated by yet another pointless relationship because we end up figuring out that it had no goal and was going nowhere – but by this time it’s too late we have already invested so much of our time on something that wasn’t even worth a second glance in the first place. Come on now nod with me! We have all been there in some way or another. So why do we tolerate so many relationships that aren’t from God? That takes away from us and steal our peace, that bring us down and make us have doubt about who we are and our capabilities?
Let me tell you, those toxic relationships are brought to you from the enemy to ensure you don’t develop those God driven meaningful and purposeful relationships that have goals and have LOVE TRUST & COMMUNICATION in them. So please don’t feel disheartened by those past hurtful relationships, fight on with God by your side and don’t let the enemy win because the LORD Almighty will bring you something ten times better. (Psalm 37:5 – Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act.)
So, let’s make this our mission over the next coming months if you are daring enough! Let’s before forming any new relationships or continue building them – & this is anything from intimate relationships, friendships, relationships with pastors – any kind really. Let’s formulate some standards and qualities you want in and from your relationships – call them GOALS if you like 😉 **HINT HINT**. What do you need? Where do you see yourself going with them? Do they bring you joy? Do they help push and encourage you forward? IS GOD IN THE RELATIONSHIP? <– I bet you didn’t even think of that whilst you were thinking about your relationships goals, you see that’s where we have been going wrong. Do they elevate you? Do they bring purpose to your life?
There are many things we find important in relationships, so all our relationship goals will be different, but one element should be on all our lists – Is God in the relationship? Ensure to look out for the standards and qualifications that are important to you and are calling out to you from God. Let go of these toxic, negative relationships and push forward to something amazing and magical (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 – Two people are better than one, for they can help each other succeed’’)
(Corinthians 13: 4-8)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Thank you, Sofia Rodrigues x
Aug 5, 2018 Sofia Rodrigues LE Youth Lead Blogger